Why do lesbians seem to be dramatically and all consumingly single OR dramatically in love and picking out matching jumpers there really seems to be no inbetween ??? 10:20 AM - 18 Dec 2017. For some reason, people who aren’t lesbians love to ask lesbians some pretty personal (and misguided) things. Some of these questions have probably been around for centuries, while others have been perpetuated by modern society and the ways that people come up with to “cure” gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals.